About me

Hi. My name is Jessica, and I’m a dairy farmer’s wife.

I did not grow up in the country. Though in the name of full confession, I did not grow up in a city either. I was born and raised in Holland, a suburban home to roughly 35,000 Dutch reformers on the shores of Lake Michigan. That being said, I have always preferred skyscrapers and sidewalks to wide open spaces and dirt roads.

But this all changed when I met the Dairy Man. He was a business major trying to decide if he wanted to move to Chicago to work in the stock market (yes yes yes!) or go back home to the family dairy farm to make a name for himself. As you’ve probably surmised from the title of this blog, he chose the latter.

So here we are—one farmer, one urbanite, one high-strung border collie, and one baby boy—on a dairy farm in the middle of rural Michigan trying to build a life together. I traded my stilettos for rubber boots and am slowly learning what it means to be a modern farm wife. The nearest Starbucks is 45 minutes away from this Smalltown, but wouldn’t trade my life with the Dairy Man for the world.

So come along. But mind your step. Yes, that is a cow pie.


24 Responses to “About me”

  1. Peggy 05/04/2011 at 5:46 pm #

    Love your stories; keep up the great writing!

  2. Steph from WI 08/11/2011 at 10:22 pm #

    Great stories, read about your blog in a farm magazine today 🙂 Im a Farmers Daughter here in WI. Are you familiar with the Pioneer Woman? She is a ranchers wife, she started out in the city and has taken to ranching 🙂 She also has a blog http://www.thepioneerwoman.com great stories a lot like yours! Is your blog findable on Facebook? Hope the weather in MI isn’t near as hot as it was here! Keep up the great stories!

    • the Modern Farm Wife 01/18/2013 at 4:28 pm #

      Steph, this is very belated, but THANKS! I do occasionally read the Pioneer Woman, though I try not to do it often so that my writing stays personal and fresh. Yes you can follow MFW escapades on FB – as long as you’re into cute pictures of border collies and posts about thrilling subjects like manure management. 🙂 http://www.facebook.com/modernfarmwife

  3. Mindy 08/18/2011 at 5:48 pm #


    I finally found someone who is hip, young and stylish that I can relate to. My name is Mindy and I am engaged to be married to a western Pennsylvania dairy farmer next summer. I completely understand many of your blog entries, especially the vacation ones. I never set foot on a farm before until I met my fiancé, but I am becoming quite comfortable helping out! I love your pictures on this page. Are they engagement photos? If so, they look similar to the ones we took on the dairy.Will be checking your blog daily!

    • the modern farm wife 08/31/2011 at 9:45 pm #

      Mindy, aren’t farms crazy? It’s been such a learning experience for me. I’m glad to be called hip and stylish, even in the midst of all this corn and manure. 🙂 What sort of things do you help out with on the farm? And yes, those are a few of our engagement pictures! They are certainly coming in handy now, eh? Thanks for your comment!

  4. thedairymaid 10/06/2011 at 3:32 pm #

    Wow, do we have a lot in common! I’m married to a dairy farmer, too! I started a blog when I had my baby because I was craving some contact with the outside world and needing a creative outlet. I saw your twitter feed about washing your car being futile and I can totally relate! It’s very nice to meet you and know that I’m not the only one going through a tad bit of a culture shock, haha!(I like your sense of humor, too.)

    • the modern farm wife 11/04/2011 at 9:08 am #

      Thanks! I love getting to explore this whole new world of blogging farm woman/wives. It’s like a secret club.

      I’ve added your blog to my Reader and can’t wait to see more. Thank goodness farming isn’t as isolated as it used to be. What did people DO before the internet?

  5. Dawn 03/26/2012 at 10:38 pm #

    Your blog is delightful! So happy that you found an amazing man! So did I–I’m 46, a native Chicagoan who married her Kansas farmer in December 2010 (first marriage for both of us) and finally got everything in Chicago settled in November 2011, and am finally living in Kansas! I’ve chosen to write a book, and I send emails out about every other week to a group of my friends and relatives. This material will be fodder for my book. If you can see my email, and would like to receive these emails, please send me an email, and I’ll add you to my list! Keep up the happy, humorous writing!

    • the Modern Farm Wife 01/18/2013 at 4:31 pm #

      Thank you, Dawn! Isn’t this life crazy? But wow – I can’t imagine the transition of being a Chicago girl for most of your life and then moving to Kansas, of all places! Good luck out there in the Sunflower State. I’ll keep an eye out for your book!

  6. kadell 04/11/2012 at 7:02 pm #

    I just spent an hour reading your entire blog, it is wonderful! I, too, married into a rual life after being raised in the suburbs. It is a fun, but bumpy ride! http://raisingruralkids.wordpress.com/

    • the Modern Farm Wife 04/13/2012 at 8:18 am #

      Glad to meet you! It’s nice to get to know others in this exclusive farm wife club. 🙂 I’ll be sure to check out your blog!

  7. aplusme 07/29/2012 at 10:07 pm #

    Hi Jessica,
    It is great to “meet you” through your blog. I too am a Dairy Farmer’s Wife born and raised in the big city. I’d love to join the ‘exclusive farm wife club’! I just started blogging and my most recent posting exposes my thoughts about being a dairy farmer’s wife. Feel free to stop by for a read http://aplusme.wordpress.com/

    • the Modern Farm Wife 08/23/2012 at 9:13 am #

      Jadine, yes please, join the club! The more the merrier. I really enjoyed reading your blog as well. I thought it was stressful having *one* FT job, a farmer, and a puppy, much less 2 jobs, a farmer, and children! Hats off to you. 🙂

  8. Esther 02/13/2013 at 6:08 pm #

    Love your blog! I just married a dairy farmer this past summer. It’s so nice to read about someone’s experiences that so closely match my own. Thank you!

    • the Modern Farm Wife 02/14/2013 at 3:51 pm #

      Thank you, Esther! And congratulations on your dairy union! It’s a crazy life, but I hope you can find some solace in the knowledge that you’re not alone. 🙂

  9. awastell 05/30/2013 at 5:14 pm #

    I recently made a career change to work for my new husband’s family business – selling hog equipment in the midwest. We help farmers feed pigs to feed the world. It’s smelly, it’s dirty, it certainly isn’t glamorous (high heels > barn boots) but when it’s a pork chop or bacon on the end of a fork, it doesn’t get any more essential. Happy to have found a new livestock blogger friend! — anna

    • the Modern Farm Wife 07/08/2013 at 11:58 am #

      What a great perspective you have on farming, Anna! It’s really so important for all of those people who love pork chops (ahem…cough…me…cough) or milk to understand where their delicious food comes from. And I love your cute pig photos. 🙂

  10. Abby 07/04/2013 at 2:40 pm #

    I love your blog, Jessica! I’m dating a dairy science major in northern Idaho, and am a biology nerd myself. We have been together for almost a year, but were inseparable for many months before we started dating. He jokingly said that I should start reading your blog, and much to my surprise, I’m hooked! It makes me giddy to notice how our relationship is already remarkably similar to yours in so many ways. Looking to the future, we are both getting a taste of what it means to work until we drop, but I can absolutely relate to what you’ve said. I wouldn’t trade it for the world and would feel so incredibly blessed if we were together for a lifetime of this. 🙂

    • the Modern Farm Wife 07/08/2013 at 12:01 pm #

      Thanks, Abby! I’m glad your BF joked you into checking out my blog. 😉 I’ve found it’s so good to have a support system of people who understand, and love, this crazy life. Blessings to both of you!

      • Abby 07/09/2013 at 8:40 pm #

        Hi Jessica, thank you so much for your blessings! I am so excited, and actually have a bit of news. Wow, that was fast! Right? You will have a better idea of how significant this latest development is. So, feel free to share your opinion here, because I really have very little knowledge in this department. Now, that BF of mine is currently working as a summer intern at a dairy farm in western Washington, and was just told by the operation’s co-owner, that the quality of his work is unprecedented! They say that they are going to teach him as much as they can while he’s there, and they’re now promising to introduce him to the world of management. I’m so glad that they have noticed how hard he works, because he puts his heart and soul into what he does for those animals. Is this news really as great as it sounds? Also, if you or your DM hear of any great internship opportunities in your area for summers to come, please let me know! He will soon be looking for next summer. He wants to see more of the the mid-west, and would love to experience life as an intern for a slightly bigger operation. God Bless!

  11. Suzanne 10/11/2013 at 12:44 pm #

    Hi Jessica! Just came across your blog and FaceBook page. Welcome to the world of farming and congrats on the family addition. Farm life can be challenging but it is also quite rewarding – just like parenthood!
    When you have a free moment I too have a farm blog – http://www.suzannecommonground@blogspot.com and a FaceBook page 2 Farmers & Their 3 Sprouts.
    Enjoy Life,

  12. michael gutowski 06/06/2014 at 10:25 pm #

    great blog where in michigan ? i am from mich but transplanted to dallas tx from country boy to city guy

  13. Brittany Hutchinson 08/11/2014 at 12:32 am #

    amazing story, great blog to read, look forward to seeing more updates

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