On Real Love

14 Feb

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
so I love you because I know no other way than this:

where I does not exist, nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.”

-from Sonnet XVII, Pablo Neruda

Even on this highly commercialized and overblown holiday, I don’t mind being reminded of my promise to love. I am grateful my husband makes the same promise.

I also thank God for love in all of its forms: familylove, friendlove, and puppylove. These selfless expressions make any day, even one drowning in fuzzy bears and pink macaroons, a blessing.

Personally, I believe that love is a choice you make every single day. Love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a decision. The dairy man and I choose to love each other despite all of our imperfections. We choose to trust, forgive, and sacrifice. We made an irrevocable promise to spend life together and we continue to affirm that choice every day. This love isn’t based on infatuation or perfection, it’s based on acceptance. It cannot be earned or forced.

Each morning, I choose this man all over again. I choose his wonderful habits alongside those that drive me batty. I choose his steady protection alongside his frequent absences. I choose to be on his team, on his side, in his corner, until the day that I die. I choose to sacrifice myself and trust that he will do the same. In a way, there’s something terribly beautiful about real love.

Now that I’ve gotten the obligatory mush out of my system: Go forth and accept love (in all of its forms) with joy!

Happy Valentine’s Day.


5 Responses to “On Real Love”

  1. Shirley Bareman 02/14/2012 at 1:31 pm #

    You made my Valentines Day really special. Seeing the next generation understanding what love is, is a blessing from God. So much of what we see is that it is all about “ME”. Happy Valentines Day! I love you.

  2. Anne Faber 02/15/2012 at 4:18 pm #

    Ditto to what Grandma Bareman said. We didn’t induldge in chocolate or roses
    but did celebrate love that has lasted 56 years. We wish you happy every day
    (which is also a choice). We love you both,

  3. the modern farm wife 02/16/2012 at 3:56 pm #

    Thanks, Grandmas! I have you both to thank for living out such godly marriages. You showed me what love should be. 🙂


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